The Mission

Smokey Green and Lillies

The inspiration behind The Sanity Search, comes from the same place as my book, Driving Home from Boston: 12 Lessons to Help You Navigate Crisis.The story of Tom’s illness was certainly unique to our family. But the thing is, everyone’s got a story. People have endured addiction, imprisonment, injury, the loss of a child, combat induced PTSD,  severe illness and/or disability in the family and other assorted crappy life events.

I can’t even begin to comprehend some of what others have gone through. As I’m fond of saying, “it’s not a pissing contest.” To me, this means that it’s not really right to compare one person’s trials to another’s. Pain is pain. Still, I sometimes don’t feel qualified to speak to some of these heavy-duty losses. However, I’ve realized that what we went through isn’t vastly different than what my newly widowed friend is going through, or another friend who has two children with terminal illnesses, or another friend who spent time in prison.

I have learned that the many moments of confusion, despair, and even joy have a commonality that reaches beyond one boy’s struggles.

And so I hope you find in this site, a space to learn, vent, laugh, and grow.

About me:

I am a freelance writer and an entrepreneur. While I do have a BA in Psychology, it’s mostly my life Mary 1experiences that allow me the grace and wisdom to speak with authority about dealing with loss and crisis. One thing that gives me the most confidence is the ability to say for certain that I do NOT have all the answers. I still struggle with junk, but this knowledge is liberating. Hey – we do NOT have to be perfect. We do not have to be HAPPY every minute. The best thing we can do is talk to each other. Someone out there usually has something that we need, some sort of resource.

Let’s do this together.

Shanti and Shalom